Is Happiness A Choice or Circumstance?

The greatest theft is not something which someone else takes away from us; it is not knowing how wonderful what we have already is now.

If I am happy, can someone else take away my happiness? Can someone else cause me to lost my happiness, and make me unhappy? 

Of course, there is immense suffering in the world. If we want to be unhappy, we have plenty of choices and completely understandable reasons. There is a great deal that happens in our lives that is not under our conscious control. Yet we are also not victims of the world, we are active participants with it.

What things make me happy, and what does not make me happy? Does money make me happy? Does winning a game or sport competition make me happy? Does having no money make me unhappy? Does losing a game me unhappy? Is my happiness conditional, based upon a win or lose scenario? Can my happiness be based in somewhere deeper than a purely dualistic choice?

True happiness is realized beyond circumstance. It is universal relationship, not centered or devoted or residing on particular individual relationships we have. True happiness sees the actions of others as directly connected to who we ourselves are. It sees beyond individually separated relationships and is birthed from one great relationship of everything there is.

Your happiness is not your responsibility, and it isn’t the responsibility of anyone else. Happiness is a manifestation of the joyous melody that the universe is creating and playing.

Play with it.


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7 thoughts on “Is Happiness A Choice or Circumstance?

  1. Great thoughts. I like to ask what is the essence of those things I think will make me happy. What’s the specific feeling I have associated with those things? How can I experience, call up, be in those feelings right now? Joy and harmony all around us and within. Love that you said “Happiness is a manifestation of the joyous melody that the Universe is creating and playing.” And that is within us as well, and so is the ability to create. Cool stuff!

    1. Hi Laura, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts.I enjoy that approach. What does asking about the essence of a thing mean to you? How do you recognize what things you are currently believing will make you happy?

  2. Good writing! I would have to argue however that happiness is totally our responsibility and is our choice. We can consciously turn there or turn to misery, that is the choice is ours. Even during suffering, one can turn to happiness. Happiness is found within ourselves, in the heart. It is irrelevant of outside events, it is a quality of our soul, and the soul’s ability to feel the joy that is present in the universe. And indeed the more we see it, the better relationships enter our life.. The more we shine, the more joy comes back to us. Happiness is reciprocal in the greater universe.

    1. Hi Maria,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I really enjoy reading them. It sounds like you are arguing the same things I was intending to communicate 😀

      My intention with the line at the end, saying happiness is not your responsibility, or anyone else’s, was meant to convey that happiness does not come simply from an individual, but rather, it comes from the relationship we share with existence and life that is marvelous. I certainly could have communicated that more clearly 🙂

    1. Hi! I really appreciate you taking the tine to share your thoughts. Thank you!

      How do we develop the skill? What information do we use in order to make the choice?

      1. I think happiness can be developed like any other skill through practice, its a mind skill how we process what we see and feel, instead of jumping to our normal reactions, as if on a record player we need to kick that needle to somewhere else – how we react to situations is a choice. Not sure if I have explained myself very well!

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